How much easier it is to be critical than to be correct. - Benjamin Disraeli
Some people just like to argue for arguing's sake. If everyone involved is okay with this, than it's great fun, like a debate, flirting, foreplay.
However, sometimes the easy, criticial way is abuse. No matter what the abused says or does, the abuser criticizes and belittles. Is it a cycle? More than likely the abuser was also abused in a previous relationship, maybe by a parent or a spouse. I say, grow up and break the cycle. Why would making someone else feel bad make yourself feel better? How do people not see that they are doing that? That they are creating sadness, madness, badness.
It is hard to see this happening to a friend. To see her beaten emotionally and mentally down until she has little self-confidence or self-esteem left. To see her stress levels so high that she is at the brink of tears at all times.
Relationships are not about being right or wrong, but being right. Right is trusting, building up, loving. Having faith in one another is goodness.
2 comments:
Oh, how awful! I dated a guy for two years in that kind of relationship. It sucks. I don't know who you're talking about (and don't need to know) but I'll say a prayer that somehow things will work out.
A healthy relationship includes making each other feel good, not tearing each other down. I hope everything works out for your friend.
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